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When He Ghosts You and Comes Back. How to Act

by Kamara
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When He Ghosts You and Comes Back: How to Act

Being ghosted is the pits; it is the worse form of breakup seeing as your man broke up with you without actually breaking up with you.

All that disappearing up on you can make you feel like you weren’t worth much to start with and that’s why they didn’t bother breaking up in person.

Then, out of nowhere, he shows up. You are yet to get over the shock and the hurt of his disappearing when he waltzes right back into your life.

When he ghosts you and comes back how should you act? Should you even give him the time of day seeing as he has proven unreliable once?

Relationship and human emotions experts recommend delaying your actions -even though you would be in your right to feel angry – and finding out what actually went wrong to make him disappear.

He might have a plausible reason and hearing him out will help you understand why he acted the way he did.

However, as you listen, you should become a bit more discernible to be sure he is telling the truth and not feeding you some story.

Men have been known to go back to a woman for a number of reasons and you want to be sure you aren’t being deceived a second time.

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When he ghosts you and comes back

Here are some common reasons why some men come back after ghosting you:

1) He’s Become Single Again

It’s likely he went with a woman when he disappeared from your life but has recently become single and thought to pick up right where he left off.

2) He’s Compared What You Had with His Current and Yours Came Out in Flying Colors

There are times when a man leaves a woman to go with another, only to find out a few months into the new relationship that what he had was the real deal.

If this happens, he’s likely to want to make his way back to you.

3) He Suddenly Got Reminded of You

He might have seen a picture or an updated status that reminded him of the good times and missed you.

In such a situation, he’s likely to reach out after thinking about it for a while and it would seem like being visited by a ghost.

4) He’s Out for Some Fun

It’s also possible he saw you, remembered how good it was, and wants a piece of the action again.

A girlfriend was played this way and was doubly heartbroken.

She got ghosted and was just pulling her life back together when out of the blues Romeo reappears.

They’d run into each other at the supermarket. He confessed to haven actually ghosted her, apologized for his insensitive actions (his exact words), and of course, warmed his way right back into her heart.

They ended up at her place with him confessing he hadn’t had it this good in a while and she feeling all shades pacified and loved.

Of course, he ghosted again, and the pain she felt this time around nearly crushed her, especially when another girlfriend sent her pictures of his wedding that took place a few weeks after he’d disappeared for the second time.

When he ghosts you and comes back
When he ghosts you and comes back

What to Do When He Ghosts You and Comes Back

It’s common to feel flattered when a guy who ghosted you makes his way back. You’d be tempted to feel he probably couldn’t stop thinking of you, or that the other woman wasn’t as good and that’s why he’s come back.

At this point, quotes like

“What will be, will be.” and “Let a man go and if he’s yours, he’ll come back to you…” will be flying through your head. However, choosing to let your heart make the decision instead of your mind, could cost you.

When He Ghosts You and Comes Back: What You Should Do

1) Find Out Why He Left

First off, you want to find out why he left, as this could be the foundation upon which other decisions get built.

If he ghosted because he panicked at the way the relationship was going, then what are the odds history won’t repeat itself.

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When he ghosts you and comes back

2) Figure Out What He Wants

You also want to find out what he wants now that he’s back. Does he want you both to pick up right where you left off?

Has the issue that broke you up been resolved or is he still the same person he was when he left.

3) Know What You Want

At this point, your happiness comes first, wel above his and you want to do all to guard it.

You might want to ask yourself if you are ready to take that risk -open yourself up to be hurt again – because, in the end, no excuse he gives justifies being treated in such a disrespectful way.

Even if his reason for ghosting you is genuine and he was dealing with some tough issues, him communicating the need for you both to take some time apart, would have conveyed the love and respect he claims to have for you.

4) Set Some Boundaries and Let Him Win Your Trust

If, however, you decide to let bygones be bygones and start anew, you want to tread carefully.

You should set some clear boundaries and let him work to prove he is the real deal this time and should be trusted.

Recommended Reading

How to Breakup the Right Way

8 Quick Ways to Get Over a Relationship Breakup

How to Know a Man that Truly Loves You

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