What Does It Mean When Your Ex Keeps Asking About You?
One of the things about having mutual friends with your ex is that even after a breakup, you still will hear information about them and vice verse.
Anyone who has gone through a painful breakup they wanted to forget would know just how exasperated this can be. You want to forget the pain the breakup caused and move on, however, there’s always that mutual friend who thinks to play therapist and
will try to get you both back together, no matter how good their intentions, you’ll be left taking one step forward and to backward.
However, your good friend’s effort isn’t such a bad thing, especially if you aren’t quite over your ex and still would like to get back together with them.
If your ex keeps asking about you and you’ve gotten wind of it,
Here’s What It Could Possibly Mean
1)He Misses You
When you still have feelings for someone, it’s hard to just turn off the emotions like it was never there. You both share a history with, hopefully, lots of good memories, and your ex just might be finding it hard to let go of the good times.
Chances are every time he thinks of you, he reaches out through your friends, wanting to find out the latest development in your life.
So he either reaches out by asking questions about you or stalks you online.
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2)He Likely Wants to Get Back
Your ex might also be reaching out because he wants to get back together but is kind of scared to come to you directly.
If he caused your breakup, he might hesitate coming to you as he fears your reaction and possible rejection.
3)He Wants to Know If You’ve Moved On
It’s also possible he misses you but isn’t quite sure he wants to get back.
Chances are he still has feelings for you but is weighing the decision of fighting to come back against what split you up in the first place.
In his vein, he might be stuck in the past, unable to move on and just might be reaching out to know where you are too.
What to Do When Your Ex Reaches Out
Knowing what to do in this situation is pretty simple and would depend on what you want.
Your ex has made his stance plain, albeit in an indirect way, and its left to you to take things to the next level.
If you still have feelings for him, you should consider reaching out so you both can schedule a meet to talk.
However, if you’re going to be getting back together, you want to talk about your breakup and what caused it. You also want to be sure whatever it was is no longer in the picture, so you both don’t end up wasting your time.
On the other hand, if you’ve moved on from the breakup, then you want to let your ex know this either of two ways:
- You could also let words get back to him as to your stance on the breakup and hope he takes the cue.
- Alternatively, you could leave off communicating and hope he gets the message.
You would need to be firm here and get your friends to stop relaying his messages, knowing the next time he asks their words and body language will work to convey to him that you have moved on from the breakup.