19 Secret Things They Don’t Tell You About Pregnancy
Before my very first pregnancy, my notion of pregnancy was one where you got pregnant, had a bit of nausea and was surrounded with people ready to pamper and tell you just how much of a beautiful you had. A few rosy months down the line, your bundle of joy drops to the waiting ooohs and aahhs eager to bath her in so much love. This was the notion I had; the picture Hollywood had filled me with which had gotten stuck to my brain.
Alas! I couldn’t be more wrong. Now, while these things do exist in pregnancy, this time of your life will run a lot more deeper than what Hollywood portrays.
There are things they don’t tell you about pregnancy and you are about to find out what they are.
I wish I had known these little things myself before I became pregnant with my first; it would definitely have made the whole experience a lot more easier to manage.
That being said, here are
19 Secret Things They Don’t Tell You About Pregnancy
1.Nausea is Freaking Bad!
Picture the worse case of motion sickness, food poisoning or stomach flu where you spent several minutes at a time vomiting your heart out? Yea, that’s how bad morning sickness can be.
For my first pregnancy, I spent several minutes vomiting everyday. It got so bad I mastered the signs and would rush to the restroom to wait, so it didn’t catch me unawares.
I got to discover that my sister and mom also had severe vomiting during their pregnancies, a condition called hyperemesis gravidarum which most times is genetic.
Research has it that two genes GdFI5 and IGFBP7 are responsible for extreme vomiting or hyperemesis gravidarum in pregnancy.
The good news though, is that no matter how bad your nausea is, it can always be successfully managed so you have a smooth pregnancy ride.
Some pregnancy symptom management tips that have worked for me and those close to me include:
- Eat bland foods like saltine crackers, bread, pretzels, potatoes, and toasts.
- Eat cold foods as these don’t have a strong aroma that could trigger vomiting.
- Opt for ginger or peppermint teas as these have a major calming effect on your stomach.
- Eat smaller meals as against one large one, but eat frequently (every 1-2 hours).
- Don’t cook your meals yourself. Nine times out of ten, pregnant women who prepare their meals themselves find they can’t eat it as the aroma would gt stuck to their nose and irritate them.
- Avoid lying down immediately after a meal.
- Opt for chicken soups or broth as these also have a calming effect on the stomach.
- Avoid greasy, spicy or sweet foods.
- For hyperemesis however, you might need to work with your doctor who will try to manage and stabilize your situation using the required medication.
2.You Might be Paranoid Most of the Time
No one told me being pregnant would sometimes make me feel like I was going crazy.
From the moment I discovered I was expecting, my baby became so important to me and I wanted the best for her. Which is why I was scared – terrified even- one time when she didn’t move for three days.
I’d heard horror stories of babies who died in vitro and this became my fear. The first day wasn’t so bad, but by the third, I became a basket case of nerves. It took getting an ultrasound to reassure me all was well with my little bun.
Other things that could likely bring on this paranoia include spotting during pregnancy and falling down.
3.You Might Hate Your Own Cooking
This is also one of the things they don’t tell you in pregnancy, so it came as a shock to me. No one told me my own food would look and taste gross to me and I would crave someone else’s cooking so bad.
Luckily, this stage doesn’t last for a lot of women and you will get back to the comfort of eating your own meals in no time.
4.The Baby Can Stay Longer than Nine Months
A baby is fully developed and is considered termed from the 37th week ( which means she can come out at this time and would be considered healthy. A normal pregnancy is also expected to end at 40 weeks (finally!).
However, there are those pregnancies that overshoot this normal pregnancy calendar and could stay up to 44 weeks.
5.Morning Sickness Doesn’t Disappear at the End of the First Trimester
If you’re pregnant, sick of morning sickness and counting down to the time it all ends, I hate to be the bringer of bad news, but there are times when morning sicknesses lasts way longer than three months.
I experienced morning sickness for all of eight months in my first pregnancy and only got some relief in the last month.
6.You Might Have Weird Cravings. Really Weird Cravings
There are some pregnancy cravings you hear of and instantly crave them too in your non-pregnant state. Then there are those you hear of that make you go: Wait…what!
If you’re used to seeing women have really “posh” cravings like ice cream or chocolate, brace yourself for some weird ones you’re about to read. The list goes thus: charcoal, dirt, wet sand, chalk, concrete, the smell of gasoline – it gets even worse – and the smell of other people’s poop!
So, if you’re experiencing any of these weird cravings, just know you are not alone.
7.You Will be Angry at Your Partner ALL THE TIME
Actually, it’s not like you’re specifically angry at him, as you’d be angry at everything and everyone, he just happens to be around to bear most of the anger you feel inside at your sick state.
8.Your Baby will Have Her Own Preferences and a Mind of Her Own
There are certain foods or sleeping positions she absolutely won’t like and won’t have you continue them.
For my pregnancy, my daughter hated me lying on my right ( lying on my back or stomach were both out of the question) so that left just lying on just my left side, which would get sore after a while.
9.Your Body May Never Get Back to It’s Pre-pregnancy State
Again, I hate to be the bearer of sad news, but you might never get that banging body you had pre-pregnancy.
Not saying all pregnant women end up with flabby bodies after delivery, but there are those little scars ( and some not-so-little ones) that never really go away.
You can become sad about these little imperfections (I know I did the first few months post pregnancy) or accept and own them as your scars of war (while you work at exercising to change those that can be changed).
10.You Will Be Constipated Most of the Time
Especially in the third trimester, but not to worry as there several natural pregnancy-safe remedies to manage constipation in pregnancy.
Good remedies you can turn to for relief include eating a fiber-rich diet, including fruits and veggies in your diet and drinking lots of water.
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11.You Will Have Really Scary Dreams
This is one of the weirdest things they don’t tell you about pregnancy and science is yet to find an explanation for it. You will have dreams so vivid and scary, they could pass for nightmares.
The first time this happened to me and being the religiousperson that I am, I remember snapping awake and spending the next thirty minutes praying. As my pregnancy progressed however, I got used to those dreams and even took to writing a few horror stories from it, which I got published on Amazon KDP.
12.Everyone will Have an Opinion About the “Proper” Way to Do Things
People will become experts on your pregnancy (especially if they’ve dropped a few babies themselves) and tell you how yours should progress. Don’t be surprised if they also get offended when you don’t take these “expert” advice.
In the end, while they might mean well, you owe them no such allegiance and the only instructions you are obliged to follow are those of your healthcare provider.
13.You Will Start to See More Pregnant Women Everywhere You Turn
This isn’t your mind playing tricks on you, there’s a perfectly good explanation for this.
According to Nicholas Rule, an associate professor of psychology at the University of Toronto and Canada Research Chair in Social Perception and Cognition, being pregnant becomes your reality and your mind is giving you what you seek.
Since you are in such a state, you will be unconsciously searching for other women in a similar state. It’s an occurrence called frequency illusion, or the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon.
14.Your Pillows will Become Your Best Pals
Especially in your final trimester when your bump grows so big, you can no longer find a comfortable sleeping position.
You will find that positioning a pillow in between your legs or underneath your bump will give you some measure of comfort and make it easier for you to sleep.
15.You Will Get So Sick of Being Pregnant, You Might Wish the Baby Out
This mostly happens in the first trimester (when you’re experiencing severe nausea) or in the third trimester.
However, while you might be tired of all the pregnancy sickness and discomfort, most womem wouldn’t exactly wish the baby gone.
16.Labour Pain is Way Worse Than You’ve Been Made to Believe
I can categorically say labour pain is one of the worse pain anyone could go through and if I had my way, I’d never opt for a natural birth again.
In the words of a wise friend:
“There is no prize for choosing to go through that much pain and having a natural birth doesn’t make you more of a mother than a woman who opts for an epidural or a c-section.
17.You Might Not Feel an Instant Love for Your Newborn
This is yet another one of the secret things they don’t tell you about pregnancy. Hollywood might make it seem like its head over heals and deep connection at first sight, but for some moms, this love and bond grows over time.
So…while you might love your newborn, you shouldn’t feel guilty if that connection between a mother and child is missing; it will come much later.
18.Heck, You Might Even ” Hate” the Sight of the Child
Postpartum depression is a real thing and for some women, there’s a certain feeling of depression and a disconnection that comes with the birth of their child.
In extreme cases where the mother develops postpartum psychosis, she might lose touch with reality and even harbour thoughts of harming herself or the baby.
Luckily, postpartum depression can be treated through counselling, support and the use of medications and sufferers usually go on to adjust to their new status and environment.
19.Be Prepared to be Sleep-deprived for Some Weeks
Most new parents will get an average of four hours of sleep each night, as they struggle to adjust to their new schedule and lifestyle.
The danger with such constant sleep deprivation though is that it can make you cranky, irritable and prone to heart diseases.
However, the good news is that it gets better as the days go. Not only will your body gradually get used to this new pattern, you might have people volunteer to help or work out a situation where you get paid help.
In the end, what matters us that everyone gets enough rest and the recommended 7-8 hours sleep so they stay active and function optimally.
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